I have started my own semi vanilla Minecraft server. It's meant to be simple and chill, but still with a bit of action since PvP is enabled and encouraged. Just keep things fair, be respectful, use common sense, and no griefing or chat spamming.
We also use home commands and tpa, so getting around and meeting up with friends is easy. Silk touching a spawner will drop the spawner too, and MCMMO is in the mix for a bit of extra progression without making it feel too far from vanilla.
Build your own stuff, try out your ideas, and have fun. If you're looking for a survival server with a more relaxed vanilla style, but with PvP and a few handy commands, this is it.